You’ve said I Do. Been pronounced Mr. & Mrs. And kissed to seal the deal. Now it’s time to show off your shiny new titles. Here’s what to include in your couples' stationery wardrobe.The couple that is gracious together stays together. Here are the answers to some of the most common questions about thank you notes:
When should I send my thank you notes?
You should send thank you notes as soon after the wedding as possible. They will seem more sincere if sent in a timely manner.
Should my thank you notes match my wedding invitations?
Yes. Wedding Thank You Notes are ecru or white fold-over notes that match your wedding invitations. Referred to as Informals, they are actually quite formal notes. Your monogram is usually blind embossed or engraved in a conservative color on the front of the notes, or your full social name is centered on the front.
Is it appropriate for me to send thank you notes before my wedding?
Yes. Sending them as you receive the gifts is a courtesy to the people who sent the gifts and also cuts down the number you’ll need to send afterwards. However, remember if sent before the wedding, you still need to use stationery engraved with your maiden-name monogram.
How should my monogram read?
The thank you notes you send after your wedding feature the initials of your first name, maiden name and married name. If all the initials in the monogram are the same size, your initials appear in order (first, maiden, married).
When the monogram has a larger center initial, the center initial represents your married name. The initial on its left represents your first name, while the initial on its right represents your maiden name (first, MARRIED, maiden).
Thank you notes sent before the wedding should have your maiden-name monogram engraved on them. Your first name, middle name and maiden name appear in that order in monograms in which all of the letters are the same size.
In monograms with a larger center initial, the center initial represents your last name. It’s flanked on the left by the initial representing your first name and on the right by the initial representing your middle name.
On what page do I start writing my thank you notes?
Monograms appear in the mid-center of the first page of most wedding Thank You Notes. When that is the case, you begin and end your note on page three.
On some thank you notes, the monogram may appear at the top of the first page. If your monogram is at the top, you have the option of either starting on page one or page three. Your message should end on page three. (The whole point of using a small note is to limit the amount of verbiage you have to write.) If you have more to write, however, you’d continue your message on page two.
You should never write on the back of the note.
My husband-to-be will be writing some of our thank you notes. How should our monogram read?
Thank you notes, like any other social correspondence, are personal messages written by one person. The thank you notes you write may be written on behalf of you and your husband, but they are still written by you and you alone. Therefore, only your monogram appears on them. Likewise, you sign just your name at the end of your note.
What are correspondence cards?
Correspondence cards are flat cards that are mailed in their own envelopes. Your fiancé’s name or monogram appears at the top of the card. He should only write on the front of his correspondence card, a rule he will come to appreciate after writing his first few Thank You Notes. The separate stationery that you and your husband-to-be use for your wedding Thank You Notes can be used afterward for any other short correspondences.
I’m keeping my maiden name. My husband-to-be will be writing some of the thank you notes. How should our monogram read?
Your best bet is to use two small, separate, matching monograms — yours on the left, his on the right — joined by a motif of some sort.